You’ve probably heard that the best way to give constructive feedback to someone is to sandwich it between two compliments:
- Tell them something they’re doing well.
- Tell them how they can improve.
- Tell them something else they’re doing well.
There’s some doubt as to whether the Criticism Sandwich is even a good technique—it may undermine your feedback. Nevertheless, it’s pervasive. You’ve probably been on both sides of the conversation.
I just learned another method that I like better: give them some PIE.
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Some people find fault like there’s a reward for it.
Zig Ziglar, Motivational Speaker, 1926–2012
I have two young, energetic children. They adore me. When I have time to sit down and read, it’s usually with one of them on my lap, and we’re reading one of their books. To read one of Daddy’s books, I have to get creative.
If I sit down with a physical book of my own to read, the kids want to turn/tear the pages.
I prefer digital books, which are more resilient to eager little fingers. But the kids still want to sit in my lap and look at our photo collection. And they’re good at swiping, so I constantly lose my place.
At this stage in my life, I do most of my reading another way. I primarily read audiobooks.
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The Man in the Arena
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
Without checking, how old is the oldest email in your inbox?
Take a guess. Now sort your inbox by date received, oldest at top. How close was your guess?
The oldest message in my work inbox just turned six months old. Most emails get processed and cleared out within 24 hours, but a few stragglers hang on.
No matter how dedicated you are to Inbox Zero, sooner or later, you realize that your inbox is starting to back up. First one log, then another. Pretty soon, it’s like you have a net that’s catching every task that comes down the river. Everything gets stuck. The river is impassable until you can clear the logjam.
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No one can defeat us unless we first defeat ourselves.
A few years ago, my wife and I went to Monday Night Football in Denver. When we got off the plane, it was quite pleasant for late November—sunny and 72°. We had a great time at the game. Yes, the Broncos won.
When we left the hotel in the morning, it was 10°. An Arctic air mass had slid down the Great Plains overnight, sending temperatures plummeting and bringing a dreary layer of clouds with it.
These Arctic air masses bring an interesting phenomenon with them. The air is so cold and dense that it slides in and pushes warm air up. All the clouds are at this layer between the cold air below and the warmer air above. It happens every time.
As we drove up to Wyoming, we reached the point where we drove up out of the cold and back into the warm sunshine. Over the course of a few miles—a few hundred feet in elevation—the day changed completely. All because we got above the clouds.
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You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
The Internet is an incredible two-edged sword. You can be incredibly productive with it, and it can be a huge drain on your time if you aren’t careful.
Have you ever launched Safari to do your banking, send a message, plan a vacation, or look up a recipe for dinner, only to be inundated with scandals, status updates, and viral videos? It’s so easy to get pulled off task! You need to go online to achieve your day, but a universe of distraction is a click away.
Fortunately, any web site that you use regularly can be used with a site-specific browser to increase your focus and productivity. Here’s how.
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One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.